People are the most important things God has ever created.  

        People are The Most Important thing to God!  There are two things that outlast this physical and temporal world: God's Word and People.  Of all creation, only People have been created by God with an Eternal Soul, a piece of them that will Never Die. That eternal soul will live forever, either in heaven with God or in hell without God.  

        In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. … And God saw that it was good. Then God said, "Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground."  So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Gen 1:1-27

God gives more details: 

        The LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.   … The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man's ribs  and closed up the place with flesh.  Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man.  The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.  Gen 2:7-25

Because of God's high regard for people, God commands us to treat each other as God treats us.  

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails. 1Cor 13:4-8   God is love.  1John 4:16

    When we do not do treat each other well we are disobeying God.  This disobedience causes us pain and it causes pain to other people, too. 

        The Lord God Almighty knows that it is impossible for us to be all that we should be all of the time.  That is why God sent His one and only Son Jesus the Christ to be our Atonement so we can be His Child and instrument on this earth.  If we accept Jesus' death on the cross as a substitute for the punishment that we deserve for everything we have done wrong, then God says, "Come now, let us reason together," says the LORD. "Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool." Isaiah 1:18  If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9        Yes, I want to confess my sins to God and be clean!  I wan this now! Yes!    

    When you are God's child, then Jesus can live through you:

        Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26              Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God." Mark 10:27                  Jesus replied, "What is impossible with men is possible with God." Luke 18:27     For nothing is impossible with God."  Luke 1:37

        The results of being treated badly, and treating others badly causes us pain, depression, heart-brokenness, and hardship.  

Here are some hyperlinks which can help you in your situation. 

Signs of Abuse in a Relationship = 

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 God truly restores emotionally wounded people and gives new hope and new life! =


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Resolving Couple Conflicts      Loving Relationships  

Traits of a Dysfunctional Family      Co-dependent Person      When Someone Has Hurt You  

  Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse     Description of Boundaries     Assertiveness  

Personal Boundaries Survey       Discipline     Communication Skills  

Anger Issues     Family Issues            Emotional and Verbal abuse  

Emotional Abuse             Experiencing the Resurrection. 

Shepherding the Wounded            Taking An Honest Look             Criticism Abounds?



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Emotional Abuse Seemed Better Than Being Lonely by Leanne Caruk 

Love – the answer to loneliness. That's what I was looking for. All I wanted was someone to love me, that I could love in return.

Born into a happy family, my early life was relatively simple and pain-free. My siblings and I did not lack for anything we needed, though we were never wealthy. As a teenager, I realized how good I had it compared to my friends, many of whom didn't come from loving home situations.

Then I entered university, and I discovered loneliness. I was looking for someone who would love me more than they loved anyone else; I figured the thing I needed was a husband.

Toward the end of my undergraduate years, I began dating a man who was the brother of one of my best friends during my teen years. We became reacquainted and married shortly thereafter. It was not a healthy relationship before or after the wedding. He was a violent, angry man who came from an abusive home. I ignored the warning bells going off in my head during our courtship and married him largely because I was afraid of him--and because I was so very lonely.

I thought I could change him; that things would be different once we were married. The marriage lasted four and a half years. The decision to divorce my husband was a very difficult one to make.

The emotional and psychological abuse I suffered from my husband left me very empty. There was almost nothing of me left. What was the point of living if I had to live with a man that was killing me from the inside out? Though lacking the courage, I thought often about taking my own life. I considered divorce the lesser evil to letting myself be subjected further to my husband's abuse.

So life got better after that, right? In many ways, yes, it did.

You see, as a child I had made a decision that had an impact on every situation in my life. My family and my home were happy and full of love because Jesus was there. As a child, I had asked Him to come into my life and change me. All I did was ask Him.

After my divorce, I grew closer to God in ways that I could not have had I not gone through that experience. My self-esteem grew again, and my creativity returned. Yet I still kept searching for someone to love me, someone who I could love in return.

I made many, many new friends (men and women) during and after this very rough time of my life, all of them wonderful Christian people. But still, very deep inside of me, I was lonely. I couldn't figure out why He wasn't answering my prayers for me (at least, that's how it seemed to me), but would abundantly answer my prayers for others. Finally, after meeting yet another great guy and being disappointed again, I came to a startling realization.

I have always known that Jesus loves me more than anyone else ever could. But I think it was more of an intellectual knowing than a whole mind/body/spirit knowing. During a Bible study one night, I listened to the story of a girl in our group. Despite being diagnosed with a brain tumour, she was so excited and so radiant with love for God. I was a bit jealous because I knew I didn't love Him like that . . . but I wanted to.

In the Bible, in Psalm 42:1, it says, "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul longs for you, O God." I didn't long for God. I thought, "Why would I need to since I already have Him in my life?"

I thought I needed a human partner. But then, in a very quiet, patient voice, He said to me, "Your desire is not for me first of all. Delight yourself in me and I will give you the desires of your heart." I realized that the love I was seeking had been there all along.

Now I know with my whole being that God loves me more than anyone else ever could-- that He will never take His love away from me or disappoint me, that He will never die on me or go away. Jesus already died for me so that we could be reunited. He rose from the dead, He's alive and His love for me is greater than anything I can imagine! I didn't know I could love anyone so much!

Take a look at your life.  How would you describe it? Contented? Rushed? Exciting? Stressful? Moving forward? Holding back? For many of us it’s all of the above at times.  There are things we dream of doing one day, there are things we wish we could forget.  In the Bible, it says that Jesus came to make all things new.  What would your life look like if you could start over with a clean slate?

Living with hope        - If you are looking for peace, there is a way to balance your life. No one can be perfect, or have a perfect life. But every one of us has the opportunity to experience perfect grace through a personal relationship with God through His Son, Jesus Christ.

You can receive Christ right now by faith through prayer. Praying is simply talking to God. God knows your heart and is not so concerned with your words as He is with the attitude of your heart. Here's a suggested prayer.


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